10 LIFE LESSONS FOR THE NEWLY ENGAGED COUPLE

10 Tips to Prepare Couples for Married Life

1. Your Life is Now: Now that you are engaged, enjoy getting better acquainted with the heart of the person you are going to marry. Enjoy who they are and learn their different ways of thinking. In the mean time, enjoy all you have and what you are as you share thoughts and ideas, goals and dreams. Don’t wait for your wedding to be happy; your life is happening in the present moment. Appreciate what is happening now in your life. It is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure. Phil. 2:13 Don’t wish for something else to happen, but enjoy your what God is doing in your life fully. Planning for a wedding is a tremendous but passing opportunity. Make it a challenge to bring it together within your budget. Be resourceful with what you already have and repurpose things before you buy. Don’t over extend your budget wishing for something you can’t really afford. Your engagement is more about establishing a good foundation for your marriage, not just preparing for your wedding.

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2. Fear is an Illusion: Remember that most of the things we fear are never realized or are not as severe as we imagine them to be. Acknowledging this can lessen anxiety, relieve tension, and open paths in one’s life to taking very profitable risks both financially and in your relationship. Don’t assume someone thinks negative about you. Be careful but believe in the best, and go forward even though you will see that most all of life is where you are both treading on new ground and learning as you go. God hasn’t given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. II Tim 1:7  Don’t be over anxious about the future.  Do your very best with each task taking one day at a time.

3. Relationships Matter Most: As you look forward to married life, prioritize the relationships in your life that mean the most to the both of you. They are what makes life meaningful; nurture them as they are a source of comfort and support. Loving the people you already have is true and lasting wealth. Life is full of hard work and unexpected trouble, your family and closest friends will contribute a lot of knowledge and understanding about different situations that you will face. Ask them questions and show them appreciation and always be ready to return the favors. We need each other especially in a world that tends to isolate ourselves from each other.

4. Embrace Failure: Failure is inevitable but not the end; it’s a part of the learning journey. Allow failure in yourself and your spouse because you are human. Each failure provides a lesson that can lead to future success. Many of the hardest lessons turned out to be the biggest blessings, because the creative side of your brain will be searching for solutions at every opportunity. Everyone is human.  Allow mistakes and learn through them together.

5. Health is Wealth: Taking care of your physical and mental health should be a top priority, as true wealth stems from a healthy and well-being. It doesn’t take more time and effort to make right food choices by not eating sugar and bad carbs. Have an attitude that activity is enjoyable and keep moving. Work hard improving your home and yard for exercise. It will pay you back in many ways. Nothing will hurt your health more than sin and hate. Keep your life free of sinful entanglements, alcohol and habits that will stand negatively between a relationship. God is love. He brings healing. Put your trust in him and He will take your worries and burdens so you aren’t weighted down unnecessarily with things you can’t carry anyway.

6. Perspective is Key: Often, when troubles arise, it’s helpful to take a step back and gain perspective. Take it to God in prayer. Ask, seek, knock and doors will open in time. Get the counsel of your parents. They have had more experience and more opportunities to learn. They would feel honored to help you see things from their perspective. What seems severe now may not matter in time.  Elevate your perspective to see things from God’s point of view by knowing His word and reading from it daily.  He wants to be with us and help us understand things. We can also know the why things happen sometimes.

7. Kindness Matters: Small acts of kindness can significantly impact your spouse and create a ripple effect of positivity. Responding with affirmation and respect to their ideas even if you disagree will keep a conversation loving. Give yourself time to understand before you disagree with them. Give your spouse compliments often, not about what they are wearing, but of the good you notice in their integrity, mind, and heart. Notice things they do good. Brotherly kindness means in the home and in the marriage.  Everyone deserves respect and the privilege of being heard and understood. Take the time to be kind and to practice kind responses to things your spouse says that you don’t understand or agree with.

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8. Pace Yourself: Life is not a race. Give yourself the time to grow and evolve, and don’t rush decisions that can significantly affect your journey. Pray about things and listen to the nudges of God’s spirit of love. He isn’t pushy nor forcing one to hurry. “Wait on the Lord and be of good courage and He will strengthen your heart. Wait I say on the Lord”. Psalms 27:14 It’s better to take your time and do things right than to wish you had. Do one thing at a time. Focusing intently on what you are doing is powerful. If you multitask too much, it will slow your performance down considerably. Handle things once from start to finish, and don’t depend on your brain to remember to finish undone tasks.

9. Accept Change: Change is a fundamental part of life; embracing it rather than fearing it can lead to personal growth and new opportunities. When you stay in a rut for too long, you lose creativity and efficiency. Minimize useless things and time waisters. Move onward and grow as you go. Try to learn to understand your spouses new ideas. List all the best possible outcomes of each change that seems overwhelming. You are not alone. Jesus said, I will never leave thee nor forsake thee.  He will walk with you through all the strange and new areas of life. You will not face things alone.  HIs presence will be a voice behind you and beside you saying “This is the way”.

10. Forgiveness is Powerful: Holding onto grudges weighs down your own happiness. Matt 6:14 For if you forgive men their trespasses your heavenly father will forgive you; but if you forgive not men . . . your heavenly father will not forgive your trespasses. Forgiving others frees you, allowing you to move forward positively. When you don’t forgive others you basically have bound yourself to bitter thoughts and unwanted circumstances. Most of the time people don’t realize how they have hurt others. One can think quicker, lighter, and freer when our minds aren’t cluttered by remembering how people did us wrong. Forgiveness is the key to growing in marriage. We must communicate what our spouse did or said with a heart full of forgiveness, because most likely they didn’t hurt us intentionally.

Thank you so much for stopping by our blog here at Bella Rosa Venue, we hope you found this information helpful. We want to use our blog to increase awareness and support for locally owned wedding venues. Locally owned wedding venues tend to provide a higher level of expertise, service and dedication. They also have far less turnover than corporate owned or investor owned venues. As you plan your wedding we hope you will consider a locally owned wedding venue like ours. You can find locally owned wedding venues on this wedding venue map. Below is a shout out to fellow locally owned wedding venues around the country!

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