How couples in Tulsa, OK rekindle their married love.
What makes couples stay in love after the wedding, and what is it that rekindles their love for each other after years of marriage? Every married couple can have a thrilling love relationship more wonderful than any romance portrayed in a book or film if they keep the small stuff pressed down and allow themselves to overlook the faults of their companion and show appreciation more frequently.
In Tulsa, Oklahoma married couples are resilient and aim towards enduring matrimony and strong companionship. Following emotions and day to day feelings that go up and down all the time isn’t what they focus on. It hurts to feel rejection, but many times ones feelings are more rooted in background, negative attitudes, and world view than in what the spouse said or did to make them feel rejected.
There is a divine work that God want’s to do in each one’s life to free them from various trauma and injuries of the past, in order to empower them so that they can receive love freely and be able to “love life and see good days”. I Peter 3:10. Because God is the author of love, and romantic love springs out of agape love which is God’s divine love, obedience to God’s counsel is paramount for any marriage to last happily.
First of all making decisions to love and respect the other and a having a serious commitment to the home will tilt the pendulum toward a strong and loving marriage. Realizing that both are human and prone to misunderstand the other will help one to have patience for and faith in his soul mate.
The most wonderful thing when a couple has been married for 50 years is the pleasure and the stability of that arm by ones side in life’s situations. Especially when one walks into another funeral, family gathering, church service or business meeting where one could otherwise feel lonely, out of place or like a sore thumb, that person by your side gives one strength, acceptance, and confidence. It is the thrill of belonging and having a companion by ones side that makes it well worth being faithful, respectful and kind in the everyday living. The value of having companionship in this lonely world far surpasses the sacrifices of obedience, submission, and being faithful to cherish ones spouse. The pleasure of friendship, the peace in the relationship, the sweetness of intimacy, and trust in your marriage will anchor your family, and support couples through all of the chaos, stress, etc. that life brings.
Marriage, rooted in love and designed by God, truly does have a profound purpose. Forgiveness, trust, and faith create a foundation that not only supports a lifelong partnership but also reflects a deeper sense of unity and commitment. It’s inspiring to see how couples, by prioritizing these values, can build a lasting, fulfilling relationship that weathers every season. To capture the essence of sustaining a marriage beautifully one must practice forgiveness and patience. These attributes are essential when facing misunderstandings or feeling unheard. Since everyone sees and processes experiences in unique ways, it takes divine grace to bridge those differences with understanding and empathy.
Feeling truly heard and understood comes down to intentional presence and responsiveness. When we set aside distractions—especially putting down our phones—and give our full attention to the other person, we communicate that they are our priority in that moment. Eye contact creates connection, making the other one feel valued. When reflecting their words back in ones own words shows that we understand and are actively engaged in what the other one is trying to say. There is nothing that communicates love like when someone takes the time to hear and understand what you have to say.
Small acts of service, encouragement, and genuine acknowledgment show love in action. Recognizing the little things, they do and cheering them on can make a spouse feel valued and cherished. It’s these thoughtful gestures that create a positive, uplifting environment in a marriage, cultivating joy, and deepening the partnership through every season of life. Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s words beautifully capture how love has the power to elevate and affirm, when she said “make thy love larger to enlarge my worth”. When we consciously choose to focus on and vocalize the good that we see in our partner, we’re not just expressing admiration; we’re affirming their inherent worth and potential. This kind of love inspires growth, as each partner feels encouraged, valued, and empowered to become the best version of themselves. Describing and appreciating these qualities not only strengthens the bond but also creates a nurturing environment where both partners feel appreciated and valued which makes them thrive together side by side. It’s a wonderful reminder that love, at its core, is about building each other up.
Setting aside intentional time, even for short trips or simple activities together, is like nourishment to the soul of a marriage, especially amid the constant demands of work, finances, and daily responsibilities. These shared moments don’t just refresh the relationship—they help couples reconnect, creating space to listen, laugh, and be present with each other. It’s a small investment that keeps a marriage strong and the bond strong and vibrant.
Both men and women love companionship. Companionship is the heartbeat of a strong marriage. When couples intentionally share time, activities, interests, and life goals, they deepen their connection and create a solid foundation for enduring closeness. Living life together—not just side by side—builds a sense of unity, as both partners invest in each other’s lives, thoughts, and dreams. Developing that “oneness of heart and soul†means being attuned to each other, seizing those small opportunities to connect and work on something together, and being sensitive and flexible enough to jump to various chances that life brings to be together. This thoughtful companionship fosters a bond that not only endures but also enriches both lives immeasurably.
God designed us to crave and respond to the comfort of gentle, affectionate touch that communicates care, reassurance, and value. These simple gestures—holding hands, a warm embrace, or a tender kiss—offer emotional security and express love in a deep, lasting way. In a world where touch is often misunderstood or hyper-focused on sexuality, the power of non-sexual, affectionate touch is sometimes overlooked. But it’s this very warmth, the casual moments of connection, that helps build a sense of closeness and security between partners. These small, meaningful acts of touch create a safe, loving space and nourish the emotional bond that sustains a relationship.
Forgiveness is truly transformative in marriage. When we let go of past hurts and choose to move forward with love, we free ourselves from the weight of old grievances, opening the door to renewed connection. Replaying past wrongs keeps us bound to pain, but embracing forgiveness creates space for healing, trust, and intimacy. Choosing to forgive daily, no matter the differences or misunderstandings, shifts the focus from who was right or wrong to what can bring peace and joy to the relationship now. This act of grace allows love to blossom anew, rekindling the tenderness and excitement that brought two people together in the beginning.
Consistently showing appreciation, respect, and courtesy builds a marriage on mutual honor and admiration. Avoiding criticism, laughter at another’s expense, or demeaning words preserves a sense of safety and trust, allowing both partners to feel valued for who they are. Taking the time to truly see each other—their qualities, contributions, and unique strengths—and speaking affirming words reinforces their sense of worth. When we make an effort to respond warmly to their expressions and actions, and treat them with the courtesy they deserve, we’re making them feel treasured and respected, like a true VIP in their own home. These small but intentional acts of love and kindness have the power to transform and deepen a marriage.
Of course, following through on what we’ve discussed builds trust and shows that the other ones feelings and needs matter. It’s those small, consistent acts of attentiveness and commitment that deepen intimacy and strengthen the bond over time. What a precious treasure to have someone to walk through life with you and face together its problems and troubles. It is extremely important to nurture one’s marriage! Speaking well of a spouse—whether to their face or to others—builds them up and strengthens respect. Praying for and with each other brings a spiritual closeness that invites grace into the relationship. In our experience we built a habit of praying together in the morning and before we went to bed, and what one didn’t remember to pray for the other one did. This has helped us to know what the deep desires of the other one’s are.
To enjoy a marriage for 50 years follow this wise guidance for nurturing a lasting, loving relationship. When we choose to respond to difficulty with patience and grace rather than reacting harshly, we diffuse tension and show true humility. Refusing to act out of pride or superiority keeps us grounded in love, helping us remember that we are partners, not opponents. Instead of retaliating or holding onto grudges, responding with kindness and understanding fosters peace and respect in the relationship. By valuing our partner’s perspective, even when it differs from our own, and focusing on the good, we create a safe space for growth, healing, and mutual support. This approach to love—overcoming challenges with goodness—deepens the bond and brings lasting harmony to a marriage.
Tricia Bell Bella Rosa Venue Owner
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